The winter holidays are often billed as the "most wonderful time of the year." We think of twinkling lights, festive music, gathering with loved ones, and delicious feasts. But for many neurodivergent individuals—those with ADHD, Autism, or Sensory Processing differences—this season can feel less like a wonderland and more like a sensory minefield.

If you or a family member is neurodivergent, you might notice that the holidays bring on extra fatigue, irritability, or the need to withdraw. This isn't about being a "Scrooge." It’s about biology.

Today, let’s talk about what sensory sensitivities actually are, why the holidays are the perfect storm for them, and how we can tweak our traditions to make sure everyone actually enjoys the celebration.

In my practice at QC Psych Testing, PLLC, I often encounter the core conflict faced by neurodivergent individuals: the constant pressure to behave, think, and communicate as if they were neurotypical. We’ve talked a lot about the immense energy spent on masking—the effort to suppress natural Autistic traits or ADHD-driven behaviors just to fit in.

This brings up a crucial question about how we design our schools, workplaces, and social settings. The answer lies in a simple, foundational principle: Treating neurotypical people as if they are neurodivergent doesn't hurt them, but treating neurodivergent people as if they are neurotypical actively harms them.

In adolescence, these symptoms can be easily mistaken for other issues. A girl who is struggling academically might be labeled as "lazy" or "not trying hard enough." Her social struggles might be dismissed as shyness or social awkwardness. The internal turmoil of constantly feeling overwhelmed, disorganized, and misunderstood is often mistaken for anxiety, depression, or a personality trait rather than a neurodevelopmental condition. Complicating things even further, girls often tend to respond more strongly to social pressures to conform, leading to perfectionistic tendencies that also mask ADHD symptoms.

Burnout is a serious signal from your brain and body that something needs to change. For adults with ADHD, that signal is often louder and requires a more nuanced, compassionate approach to recovery.